Between Erasure and Hypervisibility

CW: Discussion of Queerphobia and Transphobia

June is generally known as Pride Month (though I’ve never actually been to any Pride in June) and, as anyone engaged in online queer spaces will tell you, this comes with a whole heap of Queer Discourse (TM). I’ve previously written about the commercialisation of pride, which is a popular topic around Pride in countries like the UK and US. Today thought I want to talk about queer visibility, specifically I want to talk about my different experiences as a trans bi person.

I identify as both bisexual and pansexual. Bisexuality is still one of the least visible identities within the queer community, so much so that I started a project aimed at fighting this invisibility. Too often behaviour is mistaken for orientation, so bi+ people will be categorised as gay or straight depending on who they are currently dating. Combine that with poor visibility in media, and the persistent myth (even within the queer community) that bisexuality isn’t real, and we end up in a situation where many bi+ people don’t feel welcome in the queer community and are isolated from the support of fellow bi+ people. At its worst this can be akin to a form of gaslighting, bi+ people are told so often that their experiences are invalid that they end up doubting their feelings and identity.

On the other side of the visibility spectrum I am also non-binary. Being trans is FUCKING HARD, but one problem our community doesn’t have is a lack of visibility. In fact we have the opposite problem, we are in newspapers almost every day (almost always in a negative light), from national politics all the way down to just walking down the fucking street, trans people are hypervisible. While visibility is generally assumed to normalise and humanise queer people, hypervisibility does the opposite. We are exoticised and dehumanised, imagined as part of a nefarious Other. Worse, it paints a target on us, it makes trans people vulnerable to so much hatred.

Being trans and bi means I am caught between hypervisibility and erasure, which each come with their own costs. Seeing the systemic erasure of my identity is so frustrating that I want to scream and scream and scream until I can’t be ignored. But the hypervisibility my transness confers on me is a real danger. Visibility in it’s own isn’t enough, we need good visibility, and that can only take us so far without broader support.

One Rainbow Apart is a queer blogging meme run throughout June by the wonderful MxNillin, click on the picture to see other posts ❤️💜💙

Published by QuenbyWrites

I write about whatever captures my attention, focussing on my personal experiences. I'm mostly interested in gender, sexuality, and mental health. My experiences are shaped by being pansexual, polyamorous, non-binary, depressed, an intersectional feminist, and active in the BDSM community.

2 thoughts on “Between Erasure and Hypervisibility

  1. Trans women and non-binaries have visibility. As a straight, “binary”, “trans” man I barely see coverage of us. But the whole point of transsexualism is that after a sex change, the point is to move forward with your life as a member of the opposite sex, with or without others following up on you. . 😅


  2. There is a lot wrong with the representation of Queer people that is in the media and the lack of representation too. I wish I knew where to start with making people realise that Queer people are just human, some of us are awesome, some of us are assholes, all of us are individuals who deserve rights and respect.


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