Trans Joy is a weekly blog series celebrating the positive side of trans experiences, in an attempt to bring some balance to contemporary trans discourses. This week we have a guest post by Kai, talking about his experiences with gender euphoria and sex.
CW: Sex, BDSM
For anyone who doesn’t know, gender euphoria is the positive feeling caused by being perceived and referred to as your gender. When this happens during sex (or during kink activities) it vastly increases my arousal. Calling me a good boy, a filthy boy, referring to my chest as a chest and my cock as a cock … all of these things are guaranteed to make me 100% hornier. They make me melt.
Obviously I would expect nothing less than respect and care from a person performing these types of activities with me. However this reinforces that knowledge, reassuring me that they do feel that way; that they accept me as I am, not how the world says I should be.
The combined feelings of arousal and gender euphoria create an indescribable world of pleasure. Every nerve ending is set alight. Words are just as powerful as touch. Call me a good boy while you are fucking me. Call me a good boy when I suck your cock. Call me a good boy as you are beating me. Tell me how good my chest looks. Vanquish my insecurities. Quiet my mind. Provide me with pleasure enough to tip me over the edge with two simple words. I will be putty in your hands.
To me, there is no stronger orgasm than one caused by a combination of emotion, physical sensation and connection. There is a reason that it is called gender euphoria. Find that euphoric state, and give it to me.
Kai is a trans gay boy and queer kinkster based in Leeds. He’s interested in the intersection of trans people and BDSM.
I hope you all find some joy this week too ❤ If you want to contribute to this project then please get in touch 🙂